We help parents solve behavior problems for good so they can have a peaceful, loving home and children that grow up happy and fulfilled

The Transformative Parenting Process, a three-phase online course or coaching relationship, has helped thousands of parents around the world create great behavior and a calm, connected family life.

Kim John Payne, M.Ed.

Author of Simplicity Parenting and The Soul of Discipline

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"Todd does something delicate and rare. He brings great depth, genuine expertise and practical advice and yet balances this with compassion and humility. In a field where so many parenting 'experts' unwittingly leave a parent feeling inadequate, Todd empowers."

What Makes Transformative Parenting different?


We don't believe that parenting is meant to be about using tricks and techniques when something goes wrong, it's about loving your children and doing what it takes to avoid most problems in the first place.


And we know that parenting "experts" aren't the answer for your child, you are. We are simply Guides who walk you through our three-step process of learning how to be the parent you really want to be.


The Transformative Parenting Process involves these three steps:

Step One: Attachment & Connection

The main factor in how children behave and grow into their greatest potential is how secure they feel in their family relationships. We help parents learn how to make sure their children get their emotional and psychological needs met... which also leads to much better behavior.

Step Two: Environment & Structure

It is also important to understand the power of the right environment and structure for your family. We teach parents how simplifying your home environment, creating daily rituals and clearly establishing family rules and expectations also improves behavior and leads to less stress.

Step Three: Discipline & Behavior

By the time you reach this phase in our process, you'll notice that difficult behaviors are much more rare...but they still happen sometimes. We help parents understand why these behaviors are happening and teach them effective strategies for responding to them that help your child to grow. 

Madeline Levine, Ph.D.

Clinical Psychologist and Bestselling Author of The Price of Privilege and Teach Your Children Well

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"Todd is one of the most intuitive, instructive and down to earth practitioners I know.  His classes always get rave reviews.  Most importantly, he leaves parents with reassurance and direction. The toughest part about educating parents is making sure that they leave with practical, enforceable and realistic solutions for their particular family.  Todd delivers in spades."

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The most common everyday challenge we hear about from the parents we work with is children who won't listen or who say "NO!" all the time which can lead to frustration for all. This video explains the instincts behind this behavior and how to get more cooperation from your child.

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Children who are acting out are trying to tell us that something is wrong. Usually they are feeling disconnected or struggling with some difficult feelings. Using time-outs can communicate to a child that when he is in need, we will answer his pleas for connection with the exact opposite of what he is asking for.

How Do I Teach My Child Consequences [Video]

Consequences are not meant to be punishment. They are meant to be the proactive, calm teaching of cause and effect to children to help them learn about the effect of behaviors. I cover some of the most important aspects of teaching consequences in this new video.

Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D.

Developmental Psychologist and Author of Hold On to Your Kids

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"Todd brings a sensitivity and compassion to his profession together with a strong understanding of how to help parents with their children. I have enjoyed the opportunity to work closely with him and have been impressed by his perceptiveness and effectiveness in presenting and in parent consulting. Parents can be assured they are in good hands with Todd."

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Todd Sarner

Director of Transformative Parenting

About Todd Sarner, MFT.

From an early age, I wanted to be a Psychotherapist and work with kids. However, over time, I felt more and more strongly that in most cases the most effective and long-term solution to most issues with children were better solved by helping their parents.

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