The Transformative Parenting Process, a three-phase online course or coaching relationship, has helped thousands of parents around the world create great behavior and a calm, connected family life.
"Todd does something delicate and rare. He brings great depth, genuine expertise and practical advice and yet balances this with compassion and humility. In a field where so many parenting "experts" unwittingly leave a parent feeling inadequate, Todd empowers."
Kim John Payne, M.Ed.
Author of Simplicity Parenting and The Soul of Discipline
We don't believe that parenting is meant to be about using tricks and techniques when something goes wrong, it's about loving your children and doing what it takes to avoid most problems in the first place.
And we know that parenting "experts" aren't the answer for your child, you are. We are simply guides who walk you through our three-step process of learning how to be the parent you really want to be.
Step One: Attachment & Connection
The main factor in how children behave and grow into their greatest potential is how secure they feel in their family relationships. We help parents learn how to make sure their children get their emotional and psychological needs met...which also leads to much better behavior.
Step Two: Environment & Structure
It is also important to understand the power of the right environment and structure for your family. We teach parents how simplifying your home environment, creating daily rituals and clearly establishing family rules and expectations also improves behavior and leads to less stress and overwhelm.
Step Three: Discipline & Behavior
By the time our clients reach this phase in our process, they report that difficult behaviors are much more rare...but they still happen sometimes. We help parents understand why these behaviors are happening and teach them effective and relationship-friendly strategies for responding to them.
"Todd is one of the most intuitive, instructive and down to earth practitioners I know. His course always gets rave reviews. Most importantly, he leaves parents with reassurance and direction. The toughest part about educating parents is making sure that they leave with practical, enforceable and realistic solutions for their particular family. Todd delivers in spades."
Madeline Levine, Ph.D.
Author of The Price of Privilege and Teach Your Children Well
5 Mistakes Parents Make that Lead to Bossy Kids [Article]
Bossiness in children is on the rise and there are few things more frustrating to parents...The thing is, in my years of working with children and parents, I see the same mistakes made over and over that actually lead to the problem getting worse, not better.
Why Doesn't My Child Listen to Me? [Video Blog]
The most common everyday challenge we hear about from the parents we work with is children who won't listen or who say "NO!" all the time. This can lead to parents getting very frustrated. In this video, Todd explains the instincts behind this behavior and how to get more cooperation from your child without all the frustration and conflict.
The Trouble with Time Outs [Article]
Children who are acting out are trying to tell us that something is wrong. They might not even know what it is, but their behavior tells us. Usually they are feeling disconnected or struggling with some difficult feelings. Using separation-based discipline like time-outs tells a child that when he is in need, we will answer his pleas for connection with the exact opposite of what he is asking for.
Most Child Behavior Problems Are (Temporary) Relationship Problems- And Most Parenting Advice Just Makes Them Worse [Article]
In one of our most shared posts ever, Todd shares his experience of how most of the challenges parents are experiencing with their children on a daily basis are actually relationship problems in the moment and how changing your "frame" to understand this can help you be much more effective in ending these issues.
"Todd brings a sensitivity and compassion to his profession together with a strong understanding of how to help parents with their children. I have enjoyed the opportunity to work closely with him and have been impressed by his perceptiveness and effectiveness in presenting and in parent consulting. Parents and teachers can be assured they are in good hands with Todd."
Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D.
Developmental Psychologist and Author of Hold On to Your Kids