Why I Do This Work...

For over 20 years, I've been fascinated by one question: Why do some families just flow while others struggle constantly, even when the parents are smart, loving, and doing everything "right"?

I'm a licensed psychotherapist and former faculty at the Neufeld Institute, where I was personally mentored by Dr. Gordon Neufeld. But the real shift came when I became a father myself and realized everything I thought I knew about helping families was incomplete.

About Todd Sarner

The Journey to Transformative Parenting

For over 20 years, I've dedicated my career to understanding one fundamental question: Why do some families thrive while others struggle, even when parents are doing everything they think is "right"?

As a licensed psychotherapist and former faculty member of the internationally renowned Neufeld Institute, I've had the privilege of being personally mentored by attachment theorist Dr. Gordon Neufeld.

This experience, combined with becoming a father myself over 20 years ago, led me to a profound realization that changed everything.

The Discovery That Changed Everything

I used to work with kids directly—individual therapy, family sessions, short-term coaching. I tried every approach I could think of. Some helped temporarily, but nothing created the lasting change families really needed.

The breakthrough came when I shifted from helping kids to helping parents, and from managing behavior to building connection—something Dr. Neufeld's mentorship made possible. But even that wasn't enough.

The real game-changer was discovering that families need a complete system—education, coaching, community support, and real-time problem-solving all working together. That's when transformation actually sticks.

Over 20 years ago, this became the foundation of what I now call my Transformative Parenting Process Intensive. I've been continuously improving and perfecting it with each family's experience—a systematic approach to creating lasting family transformation.

Beyond Individual Families

My work goes beyond coaching individual families. I consult with schools, speak at conferences, and contribute to discussions about raising emotionally resilient children in our rapidly changing world.

This mission is inspired by Marianne Williamson's insight:

"There is no single effort more radical in its potential for saving the world than a transformation of the way we raise our children."

In a world of constant change, children need secure connections and emotional regulation skills more than ever. The families who master these foundations today are preparing their children not just for better behavior, but for a lifetime of resilience and authentic relationships.

"You deserve a home where everyone can thrive."

- Todd Sarner

My Professional Foundation

I didn't arrive at this work by accident. My training includes:

  • Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (California)

  • MA in Counseling Psychology, California Institute of Integral Studies

  • Former Faculty Member of the Neufeld Institute, personally mentored by Dr. Gordon Neufeld

  • Extensive training in marriage & relationships - including advanced work with renowned couples therapists Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Stan Tatkin

This background gives me the clinical training to understand how families really work, but I've designed this as a coaching process specifically for transformation, not therapy.

My Commitment to You

I don't take this work lightly. Parenting is deeply personal, and I'm honored when families trust me to guide them through this transformation.

My mission remains clear: To help parents everywhere step into calm, attuned leadership, so every child is free to grow into their greatest potential, and every parent can enjoy the deeply connected family life they envision.

Ready to Transform Your Family?

This isn't about quick fixes. If you want easy answers, this program isn't for you.

But if this sounds like you and the timing feels right, take the first step to see if you qualify for our transformation process.

Start with our FREE 20-Minute Masterclass:: "How Parents End Chaos, Power Struggles And Overwhelm To Reconnect With Their Kids In As Little As 90 Days"

Then download your bonus PDF: "The 10 Parenting Traps Smart, Successful Parents Fall Into—And How to Avoid Them"

Note: Due to high demand, our 90-Day Program requires an application process. You must first watch the masterclass or read the report before applying.

Frequently Asked Questions

I’ve read all the parenting books and still feel stuck. How is this different?

Books can offer insight—but they can’t offer transformation. What’s missing for most parents isn’t information; it’s application, support, and accountability. The Transformative Parenting Process is an intensive, guided experience that helps you actually implement what works—in your unique family, with your unique child. You won’t be doing this alone, and you’ll see real change not just in behavior, but in connection, peace, and confidence at home.

My kid is defiant/strong-willed. Will this work for us?

Yes. In fact, this approach is designed for kids who don’t respond to typical strategies. Strong-willed children are often deeply sensitive and need connection, structure, and leadership—not control. The tools you’ll learn will help you shift the dynamic so that your child feels safe to follow your lead. Many parents of intense, challenging kids have said, “This is the first thing that actually worked.”

How is this different from therapy or family counseling?

Traditional therapy often focuses on insight or diagnosis, but doesn’t always provide a clear roadmap for change. What we do is coaching: it’s practical, structured, and deeply transformational. You’ll still get emotional support—but you’ll also get a step-by-step process, tools that work, and real-time guidance. It’s less about talking through the past and more about building a new future at home.

What if my spouse and I parent totally differently?

That’s common—and it doesn’t mean you can’t move forward. Many couples start this process with different styles and concerns. Our approach helps you align without blaming, and gives you language and tools to communicate more effectively—not just with your child, but with each other. The bonus workshop “Parenting with Your Partner” is specifically designed to help with this.

I’m exhausted. How much time will this take?

This is built for busy, overwhelmed parents. Most spend 2–5 hours a week between the live call and optional support tools. And the truth is—doing nothing often costs more time and energy in the long run. What you’ll learn here makes everyday parenting easier, calmer, and more connected. It’s not about doing more, it’s about doing what works.

Why is your approach better than positive parenting/gentle discipline/etc.?

We share many values with those approaches—like respect, empathy, and avoiding harsh punishment. But what makes the Transformative Parenting Process different is that it’s rooted in attachment science and developmental psychology, not just behavior. We don’t just manage symptoms; we go deeper to shift the underlying dynamic. That’s where real change happens.

Is this just for moms? Dads feel overwhelmed too!

Dads are welcome (and often thrive here!). Todd’s strategies speak to all caregivers—whether you’re a CEO, stay-at-home parent, or co-parenting across households.

What if I can’t afford the 90-Day Program?

Start with the Free Masterclass or self-paced course. Many parents see enough progress there—but if you need deeper support, payment plans are available.

I’m worried I’ve already damaged my kids. Is it too late?

Never. Kids are resilient, and repair is always possible. Todd’s helped families with teens, adoptees, and high-conflict dynamics rebuild trust—even after years of struggle.