You Don't Need More Advice. You Need a System That Actually Works.
The Transformative Parenting Process Intensive (TPPI) is a 90-day guided coaching experience that builds your capacity to lead with calm authority, strengthens your child's connection to you, and aligns your co-parenting. Not more information. Real, lasting change.
Why Smart Parents Stay Stuck
You've read the books. You know you should stay calm. You understand that connection matters more than consequences. And yet, at 7:15 a.m. on a Tuesday, when your child refuses to put on shoes and your partner sighs from across the room, all of that knowledge evaporates.
That's not a character flaw. It's a design problem.
Most parenting approaches assume three things that aren't true for most families: that you can already regulate yourself under pressure, that your co-parent is on the same page, and that information alone leads to change. When any one of those assumptions breaks down, even the best strategies fail.
TPPI addresses all three. In sequence. With support.
"I felt like I was failing at everything — being a good mom, having a good marriage, raising kind kids. My husband and I would argue about discipline constantly. Todd helped us stop fighting each other and start parenting as a team. Our home feels peaceful again, and our kids are thriving."
— Emily, Mom of 3, Mill Valley, CA
How the 90 Days Work
Most programs start with behavior management and add relationship later (if at all). We build in the opposite order, because the sequence matters. A child who doesn't feel connected can't accept your guidance. A parent who can't stay regulated can't hold a boundary with warmth. A divided partnership can't maintain consistency. So we build the foundation first.
Attachment and Connection
Before we can guide behavior, we secure the relationship. You'll learn why your child resists (and why it's not defiance), how to become the leader they can trust and follow, and how to reconnect after ruptures without the guilt spiral.
Understand your child's attachment signals and what they're really asking for
Master the “collect before you direct” approach so your requests land
Repair after blow-ups quickly and without shame
Recognize defensive detachment (when a child looks “fine” but has shut down)
"Todd totally shifted how we saw it. He helped us realize that all that arguing wasn't defiance — it was actually his way of trying to connect with us. Once we started channeling that energy instead of fighting it, he became this amazing little helper. Same kid, totally different dynamic."
— Jennifer & Mark, Parents of 3, Austin, TX
Environment and Regulation
With the connection foundation in place, we build the structures that keep nervous systems settled. This is where you develop your own regulation capacity and create home rhythms that reduce daily friction.
Build your personal regulation practices (so you can stay steady under pressure)
Create predictable routines that reduce decision fatigue and meltdowns
Use consequences as calm cause-and-effect teaching, not punishment
Co-regulation: learn to lend your calm to your child when they're overwhelmed
Navigate screens, homework, and transitions with less conflict
"Todd totally shifted how we saw it. He helped us realize that all that arguing wasn't defiance — it was actually his way of trying to connect with us. Once we started channeling that energy instead of fighting it, he became this amazing little helper. Same kid, totally different dynamic."
— Jennifer & Mark, Parents of 3, Austin, TX
Discipline and Leadership
With connection secured and regulation built, now limits actually work. This phase transforms reactive punishment into proactive, confident leadership that your child can respect and follow.
Handle defiance and resistance without escalating or caving
Set boundaries that stick — firm, warm, and clear
Respond to aggression without shame (yours or theirs)
Address sibling dynamics, screen battles, and recurring flashpoints
Build your Family Blueprint: the living plan that keeps it all sustainable
"Our kids were constantly testing boundaries and we'd react differently every time — sometimes we'd give in, sometimes we'd blow up. The inconsistency was making everyone crazy. Todd's approach taught us how to be calm and predictable leaders. Now our kids actually respect our boundaries because they know what to expect from us."
— Rebecca & Kyle, Parents of 2, Toronto, ON
What You Get in the 90-Day Intensive
Weekly live group coaching with Todd
Real-time troubleshooting for your family's specific challenges. This isn't a course you watch alone. It's a coaching relationship.
12 structured learning modules
Education delivered in sequence, building each week on the last. Short, focused, and designed for busy parents.
Community of committed parents
A private group of families going through the same process. Real support from people who understand.
Personalized strategy for your family
Your family isn't generic, and our guidance isn't either. Todd adapts the framework to your child, your partner dynamic, and your specific challenges.
Co-parenting alignment support
Most programs ignore the partnership. We address it directly, because consistency between parents is where most families break down.
Designed for busy parents
2 to 5 hours per week between the live call, modules, and practice. It's not about doing more. It's about doing what works.
The Difference Is the System
You've probably tried pieces of what we do. Maybe you've read about attachment. Maybe you've worked on your own regulation. Maybe you've tried scripts or consequences or emotional coaching. Those approaches have real value. But they leave gaps:
Scripts disappear under stress.
We build your nervous system's capacity to stay steady, so you can access what you know when it matters most.
Consequences without connection backfire.
We secure the relationship first, so limits feel safe instead of threatening.
Information alone doesn't change behavior.
We provide coaching, practice, and feedback loops, so insight becomes embodiment.
Individual change doesn't fix the system.
We work with the whole family dynamic: parent regulation, child attachment, co-parent alignment, and home rhythms.
"Honestly, we were a mess. I wanted more rules and consequences, my husband wanted to be the 'fun parent,' and we'd argue about everything. Todd helped us realize we actually wanted the same thing — we just had different ideas about how to get there. Once we understood what our kids really needed, we stopped fighting each other and started working together. Our house actually feels peaceful now, and honestly, my husband and I like each other again."
— Ashley & David, Parents of 2, Saratoga, CA
This Is For You If…
You've tried other approaches and they haven't created lasting change
You and your partner aren't on the same page about discipline, and it's straining your relationship
Your child is bright, sensitive, or strong-willed, and the usual strategies don't work
You can stay composed at work but lose your footing at home
You want a guide, not just another course to watch alone
You're ready to do the inner work, not just manage behavior from the outside
This Is Probably Not the Right Fit If…
You're looking for a quick fix or a single script to solve everything
You're not willing to examine your own patterns (this starts with you)
Your family needs clinical therapy first (we can help you assess this)
What Families Experience
Every family's timeline is different. But here's what we consistently see across 90 days:
Weeks 1–4
Parents report feeling calmer and more grounded. The daily temperature starts to drop. Children begin responding differently to the shift in your energy.
Weeks 5–7
Meltdowns become shorter and less frequent. Co-parents find a shared language. Home routines start running with less friction.
Weeks 8–12
Cooperation becomes more natural. Boundaries hold without battles. Parents describe feeling confident in their leadership for the first time. The family system settles into a new normal.
These aren't promises of perfection. Hard days will still happen. But families consistently describe a fundamental shift in how their home feels and how quickly they recover when things go sideways.
"I used to yell a lot. I'm not proud of it. But I didn't know how else to get through to my son. Todd helped me understand what was going on beneath the behavior — and gave me a completely different way to respond. It changed everything."
— Jason, Father of Two Boys, Seattle, WA
"Co-parenting after divorce is brutal. My ex would let the kids stay up until midnight, eat whatever they wanted, and basically had zero rules. Todd helped me focus on what I actually could control, which was creating this calm, predictable space at my house. Now when the kids come home, they know what to expect. My house became their safe place."
— Sarah, Divorced Mom of 2, Phoenix, AZ
Choose Your Path
Not every family needs the same level of support. Here's how to find the right starting point:
Start with the Book
The Calm & Connected Parent gives you the complete framework on your own time. Many families see meaningful shifts from the book alone.
Watch the Free Masterclass
A 20-minute introduction to the approach. Learn the three hidden traps that keep smart parents stuck, and what to do instead. This is also the first step to applying for the 90-day intensive.
Apply for the 90-Day Intensive
For families ready for guided, hands-on coaching with Todd. Start with the masterclass, then complete a short application to see if TPPI is the right fit. We keep the program small so every family gets personal attention.
Free Guide: The 10 Parenting Traps Smart, Successful Parents Fall Into
You're educated, intentional, and doing everything "right" — but you're still seeing meltdowns, power struggles, or resistance at home. This free guide helps you spot the subtle patterns that sabotage connection, understand why traditional discipline backfires, and get immediate shifts that bring more peace to your home this week.
Frequently Asked Questions
How is this different from therapy or family counseling?
TPPI is coaching, not therapy. It’s structured, forward-focused, and built around implementation. You get a clear process, weekly live support, and practical tools, not open-ended exploration of the past. If we determine therapy would be a better fit, we’ll tell you honestly.
What if my spouse and I parent totally differently?
That’s one of the most common situations we work with. Co-parent alignment is built into the program, not treated as an add-on. Many couples say this is the first time they’ve been on the same page about parenting.
My kid is defiant/strong-willed. Will this work for us?
This approach was developed with exactly those children in mind. Strong-willed kids are often deeply sensitive and need connection, structure, and leadership rather than more control. Many parents of intense kids say this is the first thing that actually worked.
How much time does it take?
About 2 to 5 hours per week between the live coaching call, modules, and practice at home. It’s designed for busy parents. Most families say it actually saves time because they spend less energy on daily battles.
Is this just for moms?
Dads are welcome and often thrive here. Todd’s approach speaks to all caregivers, and many of our strongest results come from families where both parents participate.
What if I’m worried I’ve already damaged my kids?
Kids are resilient, and repair is always possible. Todd has helped families with teens, adoptees, and high-conflict dynamics rebuild trust, even after years of struggle. It’s not too late.
What if I can’t afford the 90-Day Program?
Start with the Free Masterclass or self-paced course. Many parents see enough progress there—but if you need deeper support, payment plans are available.