You Know What to Do. You Just Can’t Access It When It Matters Most.
For thoughtful parents who’ve read the books, tried the strategies, and still lose their footing at home — Transformative Parenting builds the calm, connected leadership your family actually needs.
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You’re Not Failing. You’re Parenting Without the Right Foundation.
You can lead a team through a crisis at work, but at home, a request to put on shoes turns into a 20-minute standoff.
You’ve read the books. Tried the scripts. Saved the Instagram posts. And yet, when your child pushes back or melts down, everything you’ve learned disappears. You react the way you swore you wouldn’t. Then the guilt hits.
This isn’t a discipline problem. It’s a capacity problem. Most parenting advice assumes you can already stay regulated under pressure and that your co-parent is on the same page. When those foundations aren’t solid, no strategy works for long.
“I can run a team at work, I have an MBA, but I couldn’t get my 5-year-old to put on his shoes without a fight. Todd helped me see that I was treating my kids like employees instead of actual little people with feelings. Once I stopped trying to ‘manage’ them and started really connecting with them, it was like a switch flipped.”
— Maria, Single Mom of 2, Portland, OR
The Shift That Changes Everything
Most approaches teach you what to say to your child. We build your capacity to stay steady when nothing goes as planned.
Transformative Parenting works in a specific sequence: secure the connection first, settle the home environment, then address behavior. When you build in that order, cooperation stops being something you force and starts becoming something that flows.
You don’t need more information. You need the ability to use what you already know — even at 7:45 a.m. when everyone’s melting down.
Why This Works When Other Approaches Haven’t
Capacity Before Content
We don’t hand you more scripts. We build your nervous system’s ability to stay calm and lead clearly, even under pressure. That’s why our clients can actually do what other programs only teach.
The Whole System
Parent regulation. Child attachment. Co-parent alignment. Home rhythms. Most programs address one piece. We address the system, because that’s where lasting change lives.
Clinical Depth, Human Delivery
Founded by Todd Sarner, a licensed therapist, Neufeld Institute faculty member, and father who has guided 2,000+ families over 22 years. Grounded in attachment science. Delivered with warmth.
"We used to lose it when our 4-year-old had public meltdowns. Todd helped us see that she wasn’t being manipulative — she was overwhelmed and needed our help, not our anger. Now we can actually calm her down instead of making things worse."
— Lisa & Mark, Parents of 2, Westport, CT
2,000+ Families
Over two decades of real results
22+ Years of Clinical Practice
Not theory. Tested with real families.
Attachment Science Foundation
Built on the work of Dr. Gordon Neufeld
You Won't Do This Alone
Coaching, community, and ongoing support
Trusted by Leading Clinicians and Educators
"Todd brings a sensitivity and compassion to his profession together with a strong understanding of how to help parents with their children. Parents can be assured they are in good hands with Todd.”
— Dr. Gordon Neufeld,
Developmental Psychologist, Author of Hold On to Your Kids
"Todd does something delicate and rare. He brings great depth, genuine expertise and practical advice and yet balances this with compassion and humility. In a field where so many parenting 'experts' unwittingly leave a parent feeling inadequate, Todd empowers."
Kim John Payne, M.Ed.
Author of Simplicity Parenting and The Soul of Discipline
“The toughest part about educating parents is making sure that they leave with practical, enforceable and realistic solutions for their particular family. Todd delivers in spades.”
Dr. Madeline Levine,
Clinical Psychologist, Author of The Price of Privilege
Read the Book That Started It All
The Calm & Connected Parent: An Attachment-First Guide to Raising Resilient Kids in the Age of Screens and AI
Everything behind the Transformative Parenting approach — the attachment science, the regulation tools, the discipline framework — distilled into one clear, practical book. Parents and professionals are calling it one of the best parenting books they’ve read.
READER REVIEWS:
"This book cut through all the noise for me."
— Richard, ★★★★★ Amazon
"One of the best books on parenting I've read."
— Hope, Therapist, ★★★★★ Amazon
"As a pediatrician and a parent, I found this book incredibly helpful. Todd uses real-life stories to show how strengthening attachment — not using more discipline tricks — creates lasting change."
— Dr. Boonie Hunter, Pediatrician, Host of The Pediatrician Next Door Podcast
"I've read stacks of parenting books, but this one actually calmed me down while I read it.
— Anders R., ★★★★★ Amazon
4.9 average across Amazon and Goodreads
Real Families. Real Change.
“My husband travels for work, so I’m single-parenting half the time. When he’d come home, he’d try to ‘fix’ everything, which made me feel incompetent. Todd’s approach gave us a framework we could both use. Now he doesn’t need to rescue us — we’re doing fine.”
Beth,
Mom of 2, Tiburon, CA
“I used to yell a lot. I’m not proud of it. But I didn’t know how else to get through to my son. Todd helped me understand what was going on beneath the behavior — and gave me a completely different way to respond. It changed everything.”
Jason,
Father of Two Boys, Seattle, WA
“I used to yell a lot. I’m not proud of it. But I didn’t know how else to get through to my son. Todd helped me understand what was going on beneath the behavior — and gave me a completely different way to respond. It changed everything.”
Rebecca & Kyle,
Parents of 2, Toronto, ON
Two Ways to Start
Path 1: Read the Book
We don’t hand you more scripts. We build your nervous system’s ability to stay calm and lead clearly, even under pressure. That’s why our clients can actually do what other programs only teach.
