You Know What to Do. You Just Can’t Access It When It Matters Most.

For thoughtful parents who’ve read the books, tried the strategies, and still lose their footing at home — Transformative Parenting builds the calm, connected leadership your family actually needs.

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You’re Not Failing. You’re Parenting Without the Right Foundation.

You can lead a team through a crisis at work, but at home, a request to put on shoes turns into a 20-minute standoff.

You’ve read the books. Tried the scripts. Saved the Instagram posts. And yet, when your child pushes back or melts down, everything you’ve learned disappears. You react the way you swore you wouldn’t. Then the guilt hits.

This isn’t a discipline problem. It’s a capacity problem. Most parenting advice assumes you can already stay regulated under pressure and that your co-parent is on the same page. When those foundations aren’t solid, no strategy works for long.

“I can run a team at work, I have an MBA, but I couldn’t get my 5-year-old to put on his shoes without a fight. Todd helped me see that I was treating my kids like employees instead of actual little people with feelings. Once I stopped trying to ‘manage’ them and started really connecting with them, it was like a switch flipped.”

— Maria, Single Mom of 2, Portland, OR

The Shift That Changes Everything

Most approaches teach you what to say to your child. We build your capacity to stay steady when nothing goes as planned.

Transformative Parenting works in a specific sequence: secure the connection first, settle the home environment, then address behavior. When you build in that order, cooperation stops being something you force and starts becoming something that flows.

You don’t need more information. You need the ability to use what you already know — even at 7:45 a.m. when everyone’s melting down.

Why This Works When Other Approaches Haven’t

Capacity Before ContentCapacity Before Content

We don’t hand you more scripts. We build your nervous system’s ability to stay calm and lead clearly, even under pressure. That’s why our clients can actually do what other programs only teach.

The Whole System

Parent regulation. Child attachment. Co-parent alignment. Home rhythms. Most programs address one piece. We address the system, because that’s where lasting change lives.

Clinical Depth, Human Delivery

Founded by Todd Sarner, a licensed therapist, Neufeld Institute faculty member, and father who has guided 2,000+ families over 22 years. Grounded in attachment science. Delivered with warmth.

"We used to lose it when our 4-year-old had public meltdowns. Todd helped us see that she wasn’t being manipulative — she was overwhelmed and needed our help, not our anger. Now we can actually calm her down instead of making things worse."

— Lisa & Mark, Parents of 2, Westport, CT

2,000+ Families

Over two decades of real results

22+ Years of Clinical Practice

Not theory. Tested with real families.

Attachment Science Foundation

Built on the work of Dr. Gordon Neufeld

You Won't Do This Alone

Coaching, community, and ongoing support

Trusted by Leading Clinicians and Educators

"Todd brings a sensitivity and compassion to his profession together with a strong understanding of how to help parents with their children. Parents can be assured they are in good hands with Todd.”

— Dr. Gordon Neufeld,

Developmental Psychologist, Author of Hold On to Your Kids

"Todd does something delicate and rare. He brings great depth, genuine expertise and practical advice and yet balances this with compassion and humility. In a field where so many parenting 'experts' unwittingly leave a parent feeling inadequate, Todd empowers."

Kim John Payne, M.Ed.
Author of Simplicity Parenting and The Soul of Discipline

“The toughest part about educating parents is making sure that they leave with practical, enforceable and realistic solutions for their particular family. Todd delivers in spades.”

Dr. Madeline Levine,
Clinical Psychologist, Author of The Price of Privilege

Ready to Transform Your Family?

This isn't about quick fixes. If you want easy answers, this program isn't for you.

But if this sounds like you and the timing feels right, take the first step to see if you qualify for our transformation process.

Start with our FREE 20-Minute Masterclass: "How Parents End Chaos, Power Struggles And Overwhelm To Reconnect With Their Kids In As Little As 90 Days"

Note: Due to high demand, our 90-Day Program requires an application process. You must first watch the masterclass before applying.