The book
The whole Map, in a book you'll come back to.
You've read a lot about parenting, and you want your kids to grow up secure. What helps is seeing how the pieces fit. The Calm & Connected Parent walks you through connecting, regulating, and guiding, in the right order, with a workbook and a 4-week course to help you put it into practice.
Ebook, audiobook, or paperback. Each bundle is $67.
What's in every bundle
The book
The whole approach in one place, in the format you choose: ebook, audiobook, or paperback.
The companion workbook
A PDF with space to apply each part of the Map to your own family, so the ideas turn into something you actually do.
The 4-week course
Short lessons from me, Monday through Friday, walking through the book and the workbook. On weekends, a recorded Q&A with a live group about that week's material.
Choose your bundle
Every bundle includes the workbook and the 4-week course. Pick the format that fits your life.
Ebook bundle
Keep it on your phone and come back to it when a hard moment comes up.
$67
Get the ebook bundleAudiobook bundle
Listen on a walk, on your commute, or when sitting down with a book isn't realistic.
$67
Get the audiobook bundlePaperback bundle
Mark it up, dog-ear the pages, and pass it to your partner.
$67
Get the paperback bundleJust want the book on its own? It's also on Amazon (book only, without the workbook and course).
Where the book fits
Real change comes from putting the Map into practice in your own home, and that goes best with support. That's what working with me is. If it's not the right timing, or it's too big a commitment right now, the book bundle is a good place to start: the book, the companion workbook, and a 4-week self-paced course. It isn't the same as working with me, but it gives you the whole Map and a way to start using it.
A good book to read together
When two parents are working from different ideas, even good advice turns into an argument. Reading the same book gives you a shared picture to start from, whether you live together or not. Many parents read it first, then hand it to their partner or co-parent.
What others say
4.9 average across Amazon and Goodreads
"From the very first page, you'll feel like a wise, warm friend is walking alongside you. This book makes attachment theory beautifully relatable and practical, moving it into loving steps that come from the heart. It leaves you with the empowering feeling: 'I can do this!'"Kim John Payne, M.Ed.
Author of Simplicity Parenting and The Soul of Discipline
"This book provides a practical, attachment-based approach to parenting that focuses on connecting with our children as the foundation for our relationship. It helps parents gain skills to raise resilient children, while also providing parents with permission and grace to take time for ourselves and remind ourselves that we are humans who are going to make mistakes; and that's okay."Jessica Rabon, PhD
Pediatric psychologist
"Todd Sarner has written a heartfelt book for parents, encouraging them to connect with their children in a world of non-stop interference from technology. The magic in his writing is that he connects with his readers' everyday parenting experience so powerfully!"Tina Feigal, M.S.
Parent coach and behavior consultant
"As a therapist, I've taught parenting classes and run a support group for parents. I've read many parenting books over the years. I can honestly say, this is one of the best books on parenting I've read. The author's advice feels kind to both child and parent, encouraging, and very doable."Hope, therapist
Amazon review
"I've read stacks of parenting books, but this one actually calmed me down while I read it. His warm, practical steps fit into messy real days, and the repair scripts saved me more than once. If you want to feel steady instead of reactive, this is the one."Anders R.
Amazon review
"Todd's simple and effective approach has shaped my parenting since my son's first year. He is now 18 and I wouldn't change a thing."Deanna Harned
Amazon review
Want to see the whole Map first?
The free Roadmap video walks through the same approach in 49 minutes, with a worksheet to score your family as you watch.
Watch the Parenting RoadmapGet each new piece of the Map
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