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Videos and conversations for calm, connected families

Free videos and podcast conversations about raising secure, resilient kids, sorted by what your family needs right now. If you're new, start with the Roadmap. It shows you the whole Map, and everything else here fits inside it.

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The whole Map

The Parenting Roadmap video

The Parenting Roadmap

A free 49-minute video that shows you the whole Map: how to connect, regulate, and guide, in the right order. Grab the worksheet on the page first, so you can score your family as you watch.

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Podcast: The Pressures of PrivilegeHow to Raise Resilient Kids When You're Already Doing Everything RightPodcast: Talk to DanielleFrom Daily Chaos to Lasting CalmVideoGentle Parenting Isn't Failing. Here's What Is.VideoGentle Parenting Is Missing Something (Here's What)

What your kids need

Kids grow secure, regulated, and resilient when three things are in place: connection, the right rhythms, and limits that work.

Connect

When you feel ignored

When you ask, remind, and ask again, and your kids seem to tune you out. These are about the connection that makes kids want to follow your lead.

VideoDo This BEFORE You Tell Your Child What to DoVideoHow to Get Kids to Listen Without Raising Your VoiceVideoWhen Kids Say "I Don't Care" (What It Really Means)Video10 Things Every Child Needs From YouVideoHow to Raise Emotionally Intelligent ChildrenVideoThe Top 9 Myths About Attachment ParentingVideoThe Power of StorytellingPodcast: Parenting Great Kids with Dr. Meg MeekerUnlocking Connection and Calm in ParentingPodcast: HopestreamWhy Your Struggling Child Pushes You AwayHolding the Fort AbroadPodcast: Holding the Fort AbroadStaying Connected When a Parent Travels for Work

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Regulate

When the days feel chaotic

When mornings, bedtimes, and screens turn every day into a push. These are about helping kids settle, and the rhythms that make that easier.

VideoThe Real Reason Behind Your Child's Hardest MomentsVideoBanning Phones Won't Fix It (Do This Instead)VideoWhen Are Kids Ready for Screens?VideoYour Child's "ADHD" Might Be Something ElseVideoNourishing Kids for Calmer, Happier Homes (with Jess Sherman)Podcast: Parent Like a PsychologistRaising Resilient Kids in the Age of Screens and AIPodcast: The Warrior Parent PodcastRaising Emotionally Healthy Kids in a Digital WorldHealing HeartsPodcast: Healing HeartsThe 5 Things Kids Need From Their Parents During Emotional Breakdowns

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Guide

When the same battles keep coming back

When meltdowns, pushback, and the same fights keep coming. These are about limits and consequences that work without punishment or yelling.

Video5 Consequences Mistakes Almost Every Parent MakesVideoTeaching Children Consequences (Without Punishment)Video3 Rules for Effective Limit SettingVideoWhy Timeouts Stop WorkingVideoThe Top 10 Discipline Mistakes Parents MakeVideoStop Sibling RivalryParents of the YearPodcast: Parents of the YearHow Can Parents Set Boundaries Without Punishment?Podcast: Families Matter MostTransformative Parenting

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What it asks of you

Those three things rest on the adults: parents who are clearly in charge in a warm way, parents who can stay calm, and parents who are on the same page, whether you live together or not.

Alpha Parents

Clearly in charge, in a warm way

Kids can relax when they know someone kind is in the driver's seat. These are about leading your family with warmth and confidence.

VideoWhich Parenting Style Are You?Video5 Things That Make Kids BossyVideo3 Secrets to Effective Parenting Without YellingVideoThere Are No Disobedient Children (with Kim John Payne)Podcast: Raising MenMoving From Conflict to Alpha LeadershipPodcast: The Revolutionary ManHow Fathers Can Lead With Confidence and Connection

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Calm Parents

Staying steady when your kids push your buttons

Your calm is what helps your kids find theirs. These are about staying steady in the hard moments, and repairing when you don't.

VideoWhy You Can't Stay Calm With Your KidsVideoWhat to Do After You Lose It With Your KidsVideoStop Trying to Be the Perfect Mom (with Kim Kupiecki)VideoHow Journaling Can Transform Your ParentingThe Pediatrician Next DoorPodcast: The Pediatrician Next DoorWhy Kids Push Our ButtonsPodcast: Ignite Your PowerParenting Without Losing YourselfPodcast: Let's Have This ConversationHelping Parents Build Emotional Steadiness

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Aligned Parents

On the same page, together or not

Kids do best when their parents work as a team. These are about getting on the same page with your co-parent, whether you live together or not.

VideoThe 3 Fights Every Couple Has After KidsVideoSolving Money Fights When You're Married With KidsPodcast: Coparenting Beyond ConflictAttachment Science for CoparentsPodcast: The FOCUS PodcastWhy Connection Changes EverythingA Year and a DayPodcast: A Year and a DayBridging the Gap: Kids and DivorcePodcast: Better Divorce PodcastThe Importance of Attachment in Parenting

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All podcast conversations

Every published conversation, newest first. Each one opens on YouTube or the show's own page.

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The Library is here for you to explore at your own pace. If you'd like a Guide to walk the Map with you and your family, I work closely with a small group of families at a time.

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